As I’ve been salvaging photographs for the families that have entrusted me with the task, I have noticed something. Moms are absent in lots of photos. There are photos of dads with the kids. Photos of the kids together, kids with their friends, with grandparents, kids participating in sports. But there is a disturbing lack of MOM in the photos. When you think about it, it makes sense. Moms are usually the ones behind the camera snapping the photo. Moms are always waiting until they’ve “dropped a pant size” or “get their hair fixed” or “can really take time to go shopping” or … There’s always a reason that our busy lives derail appearing in photos with our children. I’m guilty of it too, and I’m a photographer.
I was so so saddened to be unable to save this photo of a mother and her child. Because it’s one of the only ones. The daughter will always be able to see it in her minds eye… Always know what it should look like; but the faces are washed away.
I’m going to tell you – not ask – to take more photos WITH your kids. Don’t wait to lose weight or get your makeup and hair perfect. Just do it. Even if it’s a selfie. Hire a professional. Whatever you do, take the picture. And print it. And frame it. And make copies and back it up. Your kids won’t care if you were “perfect.” They will care when the time comes that photos are all that they have of you, and they can’t find any photos of you with them.
Hold them and take a picture with them. They may squirm now, but they will be grateful for it.